How to Celebrate the Holidays After Losing a Loved One

The holidays are sometimes referred to as "the most wonderful time of the year," full of happiness, togetherness, and celebrations. However, for those who have lost a loved one, this season can serve as a heartbreaking reminder of what—or who—is missing.

Whether your loss was recent or occurred years ago, the holidays can bring up difficult emotions. Nonetheless, it is possible to experience moments of calm, significance, and even joy while acknowledging your loss. Here are some tips for navigating the season with self-care and kindness:

Give yourself permission to feel everything.

Grief doesn't follow a schedule, and it certainly doesn't pause for the holidays. You may feel sorrow, frustration, guilt, or even relief—all of these emotions are valid. Avoid judging yourself or comparing your journey to others’. Allow yourself to feel your emotions as they come and go.

 Adjust your traditions.

You don't have to do things the same way you always have. If certain traditions are too painful, it's okay not to celebrate them this year. On the other hand, starting new traditions in honor of your loved one can be a meaningful way to keep their memory alive. Light a candle, prepare their favorite dish, or share stories about them.

 Say no when you need to.

The social pressure to attend every gathering or event can feel overwhelming. Give yourself the freedom to say no. Protect your energy and focus on what feels right. You don’t have to justify your grief or apologize for needing space.

Reach out for assistance.

You don’t have to go through this alone. Talk to someone you trust—a friend, family member, support group, or counselor. Sometimes, simply saying out loud what you’re going through can help lighten the emotional load.

Honor your loved one.

Find small ways to include them in the season. Hang a special ornament, play their favorite holiday song, or set a place for them at the table. These acts can bring comfort and connection, reminding you that love endures even after loss.

Practice self-compassion.

Be gentle with yourself. Grief may affect your energy, sleep, appetite, and mood. Rest when you need to. Eat when you can. Breathe deeply. Allow yourself moments of comfort and even joy—feeling happy does not mean you have forgotten them.

Find moments of gratitude.

This doesn’t mean ignoring your pain but allowing gratitude to exist alongside your grief. Remember the love you shared, the memories that remain, or the people who are walking beside you right now. Gratitude can offer a quiet strength.


You’re not alone.

Losing someone you love changes everything, including how you experience the holidays. Through the tears, memories, and quiet moments, there are still ways to honor love, life, and connection. There is no "right" way to grieve—only your way. And that is enough.